My wife and I have been happily married now for 5 years. While the time has been short so far, we have lived through many ups and downs which have made our relationship stronger and deeper. We had planned and wanted to have kids – we even had names for them. But some things don’t go as planned and we have made peace with the decision and the child-free life that we live.

We have very similar viewpoints on a lot of the important things(values, money, communication) and we complement each other on a lot of differences… we eventually realize that we are our only support system – so we share our needs and disappointments, figure out what we need to work on, and take a few days to calm our Aries/Sagittarius fire signs.

We definitely notice that our lives are quite different from plenty of our friends who have families. Life is much simpler. No full days of taking kids around and routines tied to their schedules. Our routines revolve around our dog, Bawan and our work schedules. Sprinkle in some time with friends and some trips throughout the year and that is pretty much it. We try to walk everyday together and more on the weekends. Exercise and sleep are important to us and we sleep early and wake up early to be productive.

Do we get tired of each other? Not really. We have very similar viewpoints on a lot of the important things(values, money, communication) and we complement each other on a lot of differences. What happens when we fight? There are definitely moments when we disagree. But we eventually realize that we are our only support system – so we share our needs and disappointments, figure out what we need to work on, and take a few days to calm our Aries/Sagittarius fire signs. But overall, we are both easygoing and try to live life to the fullest within our means.

Focusing more on our lives, we pay attention to what we eat and our health – as we do not have kids who will take care of us in the future. Nutrition is definitely important – we eat out around once a week and red meat is rarely on the menu. Usually a lot of vegetables, chicken, fish and tofu and lots of vitamins and supplements. Future health and long term care costs are definitely on our minds. We still want to live fruitful lives and so we plan multiple trips a year. Hopefully in the near future, slow travel and other plans are in the cards. Not having kids and roots, we are positioned well to be able to leave everything behind here in the US and go wherever we want. So a lot of our planning and discussions currently are revolving around this future.

沒有孩子的生活的樂趣和挑戰

我和妻子已經幸福地結婚五年了。雖然時間很短，但我們經歷了許多風風雨雨，這讓我們的感情更加牢固深厚。我們曾經計畫過，也想要孩子──甚至還給他們取了名字。但有些事情並沒有照計畫進行，我們已經接受了這個決定，也接受了現在沒有孩子的生活。

我們確實注意到，我們的生活與許多成家立業的朋友截然不同。生活簡單得多。不用整天帶孩子到處跑，也不必被孩子的行程束縛。我們的日常生活圍繞著我們的狗狗Bawan和工作安排。一年中抽出一些時間與朋友相處，偶爾出去旅行，基本上就是這樣。我們盡量每天一起散步，週末多走路。運動和睡眠對我們來說很重要，我們早睡早起，以提高效率。

我們會厭倦彼此嗎？不會。我們在很多重要的事情上（價值觀、金錢、溝通）有著非常相似的觀點，並且在許多差異上互相補充。我們吵架的時候會怎麼樣？我們一定會有意見不合的時候。但我們最終會意識到，彼此才是彼此唯一的依靠——所以我們會分享彼此的需求和失望，找出需要改進的地方，並花幾天時間來平復我們白羊座/射手座的火象星座情緒。但總的來說，我們都很隨和，並努力在力所能及的範圍內盡情享受生活。

我們更加重視生活，注重飲食和健康——因為我們沒有孩子將來照顧我們。營養當然很重要——我們大約每週外出用餐一次，菜單上很少出現紅肉。我們通常會吃很多蔬菜、雞肉、魚和豆腐，以及大量的維生素和補充劑。我們當然也考慮未來的健康和長期照護費用。我們仍然希望過著充實的生活，所以我們每年計劃多次旅行。希望在不久的將來，慢旅行和其他計劃都能實現。沒有孩子，沒有根，我們完全有能力拋下美國的一切，去任何我們想去的地方。所以我們目前的許多計劃和討論都圍繞著這個未來。